The pitfalls of how to make human relationships work well [Become a good listener]

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Well, today, I'm going to talk about "the pitfalls of how to make human relationships go well", but I'll ask you suddenly.

How many ways do you know to improve human relationships?

Do you know a ll?

Then next, do you know this fact?

In fact, all of them have "disadvantages!" What do you mean?

How about it?

You didn't know much about this, did you?

I'm convinced by myself, but isn't it surprising?

"I'll improve human relationships!" I'm saying that, but "There are also disadvantages!" Oh, it looks like a scam, doesn't it?

If you believe it as it is and do it carelessly, you will fail, right?

If you think so, it's the right answer.

So, if you do it, you have to be careful if you don't pay attention to the disadvantages, you will really fail.

Don't overlook the disadvantages, too.

Moreover, it is a pitfall, so it is very difficult to notice and the disadvantage will be bad for everyone.

"Then you don't have to do it!" It will be.

It can't be helped if you say it too persistently, so in this series, I'll talk about things to be careful of in advance so that it won't happen.

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Therefore, the way to make today's human relationships go well is to "become a good listener".

People who have this special skill will be useful in the world, right?

Some people don't even realize that this is a specialty.

I'm the same, but people say, "You're a good listener!" What are you saying?

I don't care about the story, but if you let me talk a little more, I'll consciously bring out what the other person wants to say.

I think there are many people who can say what they want to say and feel refreshed, right?

"I want you to listen to me." "I feel refreshed to talk!" There are actually people who say that.

You're actually talking to me.

Well, I'm a "good listener", which is also my specialty, but is it okay if I don't have to check why it comes in handy?

Shall I check a little before going to the disadvantage?

If it goes on like this, I'm going to end up with a bad guy just talking about me.

Well, in other words, people are people who want to talk to many people.

Everyone wants to talk about themselves, not people who want to hear other people's stories.

I want you to listen to me until you are satisfied.

That's how I appealed to myself and disclosed myself, "I'm such a person!" I want you to recognize and understand.

It's like satisfying self-desires.

After that, "I want to get along with you!" Or, "I want to maintain a relationship!" Or, "I want to be a friend!" It also comes out with an instinctive desire.

How about it?

People have a deep meaning when they talk, don't they?

Then, on the other hand, if you become a good listener, people don't want to talk to everyone on top of the minority, and they have the nature of gathering with people who listen to them well, so they will gather at people who are good at listening.

Isn't it strange that this doesn't come in handy?

As long as you listen to people's stories, your relationships will improve, right?

So there are great advantages, but this method also has disadvantages.

It means, "I don't listen to the other person's story too much, but I can't talk about myself."

I don't know when to talk, or I'm satisfied when I see the other person talking and satisfied, "I don't need to say my own story." I'm going to assume it on my own.

If you don't talk about yourself like that, you won't be able to speak more and more.

Just nod and say, "Yeah."

Also, I can't convey half of what I want to say or what I want to convey.

Various side effects occur.

Moreover, if you are not aware of this, you are doing it without realizing it, so that's why it's a trap.

So, the point is balance.

When the other person is talking, listen carefully to him.

Whether it's an adult or a child, the other person.

People have a law of retribution, and if you are an ordinary person, the law that listens to the other person's story works instead of listening to you.

So don't worry, please talk about yourself.

If there are people who are worried about such things.

quotemarkYou're not interested in this kind of story, are you? Or, "Even if I say it now." Or, "Well, okay, see you next time." You don't have to believe that.

If you don't ask someone to listen to you, you'll be frustrated.

So how was it?

Today's story.

By the time you realize it, you are already stuck in a trap, so please be very careful.

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