The pitfalls of how to make human relationships work well [Finding the other person's strengths]

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Well, today, I'm going to talk about "the pitfalls of how to make human relationships work well".

What do you think?

Have you been freed from the shock yet?

Are you used to it?

"It's a way to improve human relationships!" I'm saying that, but on the contrary, "There's a possibility that I'll ruin it." It's quite shocking, isn't it?

Because what I'm saying is contradictory.

Moreover, there are many ways to improve human relationships, some of you know.

But after all, all of them have the same pitfalls, unfortunately.

As I've said many times from the previous series, everything has a front and a back.

That's why it can't be helped.

I can't help it, I can't resist it.

So, I have no choice but to give up, but I have to focus not only on the superficial advantages, but also on the good points, but also on the hidden disadvantages. Again, "Eh, that couldn't be true!" Or, "I did it properly, why!" Or, "Seriously! Why, I can cry..." It's going to be.

Therefore, I will also talk about the pitfalls of how to make human relationships work well, so please stay with me until the end.

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So today's method, but the method I'm going to introduce today is "finding the strengths of the other person".

This is also a good way, isn't it?

It's the best hitter.

Because you will find the good points of the other person, you will see various good points one after another.

Then, strangely enough, people, all of them, look like good people.

Isn't it strange?

Well, it's also the mechanism of the brain, but by the way, if you find something bad, you'll find something bad more and worse, so when that happens, the opposite effect will work this time, and that person will look like a bad person. It is.

No matter how bad a person is, there must be one or two good things.

I can't see it.

Isn't it strange?

What is the brain?

Well, then, about the disadvantages of the method of "finding the strengths of the other party", which I've already said earlier.

That's right, it means that you can't see the bad points.

You believe blindly, "That's not the case with that person." That's right.

"There must be a reason for some reason!" And so on.

I won't doubt it anymore.

Right?

Isn't this dangerous?

There are bad points and shortcomings that can always be said to anyone.

But if you miss it, pretend not to see it, or even if you see it, you will come to believe that it is your own misunderstanding.

Is that okay?

When you accept others, the good points are the same, but if you don't accept the bad points, it won't last long, right?

Even the good points will one day go around and become a bad place, and it will be a trigger for some kind.

On the other hand, if you go around the bad places, you may turn to the good places.

If you only look at the good points and not the bad points, you won't be able to balance it, right?

That's why I break down human relationships.

Moreover, the more we try not to see the bad points, the more close-ups our brains become.

That's a state where the subconscious mind is locking on the bad points, but it's called "obsession".

This obsession is also quite troublesome, and once you have an obsession, it's hard to let go of it, right?

Once "I want it." It's hard to get what you thought out of your head, right?

Either get it, give up, or disappear from this world.

In other words, if you can't fully control your mentality, it's quite difficult to let go if you're in a state of obsession.

Moreover, obsession is like a person's obsession, so if you are touched, denied, or ridiculed by it, wouldn't you be a little angry?

That will also be a failure, human relationships.

That's why it's dangerous if you do too much to "find only the other person's strengths".

Moreover, there are times when I keep doing it without realizing it.

In this case, you will really fall into the trap, so please be careful.

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Today's story.

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