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Pouring one out for Pillowfort
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soc_puppetIt was never one of my internet homes, but I know a lot of people really loved it.
Pillowfort's last day will be December 4th, 2026.
Pillowfort's last day will be December 4th, 2026.
Serving One's Time Under Fandom Etiquette
Oct. 17th, 2026 01:12 pmsoc_puppetTaking this here, because I enjoy a lot of my time on Tumblr, but it is NOT a good place for nuanced conversation, IMO.
There's a post I just reblogged on Tumblr about the existence of fandom etiquette, and it also touches on something I've been thinking about for a while: I don't know if fandom really has a general accepted way to... IDK, give people a second chance if they violate fandom etiquette in a way that doesn't cause physical or material harm?
To be as clear as possible, I'm not talking about "So-and-so formed a cult and manipulated their followers in creepy ways," "So-and-so used their status as a Big Name Fan to farm money to get a new laptop they didn't need," "So-and-so assaulted someone," or things of that nature. I'm talking more along the lines of, "So-and-so flounced when their fanwork didn't get the attention they wanted," "So-and-so withheld updates to their fanwork for more comments/kudos," or "So-and-so deliberately gave their recipient a fill they wouldn't like in an exchange/event".
How long should we hold someone in contempt for a flounce? What are the conditions under which someone who violates fandom etiquette in such a way might be accepted back into the community? When has someone "served their time"? Is there a way back from a deliberately bad gift? And, to reference another Tumblr post, how does it compare to the statute of limitations on arson?
There's a post I just reblogged on Tumblr about the existence of fandom etiquette, and it also touches on something I've been thinking about for a while: I don't know if fandom really has a general accepted way to... IDK, give people a second chance if they violate fandom etiquette in a way that doesn't cause physical or material harm?
To be as clear as possible, I'm not talking about "So-and-so formed a cult and manipulated their followers in creepy ways," "So-and-so used their status as a Big Name Fan to farm money to get a new laptop they didn't need," "So-and-so assaulted someone," or things of that nature. I'm talking more along the lines of, "So-and-so flounced when their fanwork didn't get the attention they wanted," "So-and-so withheld updates to their fanwork for more comments/kudos," or "So-and-so deliberately gave their recipient a fill they wouldn't like in an exchange/event".
How long should we hold someone in contempt for a flounce? What are the conditions under which someone who violates fandom etiquette in such a way might be accepted back into the community? When has someone "served their time"? Is there a way back from a deliberately bad gift? And, to reference another Tumblr post, how does it compare to the statute of limitations on arson?
WIP? Socchan's Quick-and-Dirty AO3 Tagging Template
Oct. 16th, 2026 01:03 pmsoc_puppetThese are mostly off the top of my head and to make tagging on AO3 easier for me. I may or may not add more later. Feel free to yoink for yourself, and/or suggest your own in the comments!
Base Level Requirement: If someone goes looking specifically for whatever the tag refers to (ship, character, character dynamic, setting, etc), will they be satisfied by your fanwork, or will they be disappointed? If satisfied, tag it; if disappointed, don't.
AO3 Warnings: Hopefully you know the rules for this! Aside from that, optionally tag any details you think are relevant for either searching or blacklist purposes.
Relationships: Any relationship that is the focus of or otherwise central to the work; if it just gets a passing mention and doesn't impact the plot (etc), you're probably fine to leave it out. Side or background relationships can optionally go in Other Tags.*
Characters: See Base Level Requirement; if someone searching through a specific character's tag were to click on this work, would they be satisfied by it, or would they be disappointed? If you include a lot of characters in a work but they don't have a big/significant part, maybe consider variations on "ensemble" or "everyone", or even just subsets like "Homestuck Trolls" vs "Homestuck Humans", etc.
Setting: Canon compliant, canon divergence, AU (what kind?), modern, modern with magic, etc.
Tropes and Format: Coffeeshop, mutual pining, 5+1, epistolary, sex pollen, etc.
Is there on-screen sex?: If yes, and you've already tagged the work as sexually explicit, then tag which sex acts and/or kinks feature prominently.
Is the ending open or closed? If open, tag Open Ended; if closed, you should be fine to leave it be, or tag "complete".
If text, would you be open to people making podfic? If yes, add "Podfic Welcome".
* I really, deeply, genuinely wish that AO3 had a "background ships" tag field, in addition to ships and characters. Has the potential to save a lot of headaches, but also probably a pain to add at this point.
That's all I've got for the moment; as I said above, I may add more later!
Base Level Requirement: If someone goes looking specifically for whatever the tag refers to (ship, character, character dynamic, setting, etc), will they be satisfied by your fanwork, or will they be disappointed? If satisfied, tag it; if disappointed, don't.
AO3 Warnings: Hopefully you know the rules for this! Aside from that, optionally tag any details you think are relevant for either searching or blacklist purposes.
Examples (may be triggering):
Which parties are underage (one, more than one, all), forced vs coerced vs drugged noncon (etc), type of violence/body part(s) harmed (head/eye/hand/dental/etc), whether the major character stays dead, whether it's a major character you want to root for or are happy to die, etcRelationships: Any relationship that is the focus of or otherwise central to the work; if it just gets a passing mention and doesn't impact the plot (etc), you're probably fine to leave it out. Side or background relationships can optionally go in Other Tags.*
Characters: See Base Level Requirement; if someone searching through a specific character's tag were to click on this work, would they be satisfied by it, or would they be disappointed? If you include a lot of characters in a work but they don't have a big/significant part, maybe consider variations on "ensemble" or "everyone", or even just subsets like "Homestuck Trolls" vs "Homestuck Humans", etc.
Setting: Canon compliant, canon divergence, AU (what kind?), modern, modern with magic, etc.
Tropes and Format: Coffeeshop, mutual pining, 5+1, epistolary, sex pollen, etc.
Is there on-screen sex?: If yes, and you've already tagged the work as sexually explicit, then tag which sex acts and/or kinks feature prominently.
Is the ending open or closed? If open, tag Open Ended; if closed, you should be fine to leave it be, or tag "complete".
If text, would you be open to people making podfic? If yes, add "Podfic Welcome".
* I really, deeply, genuinely wish that AO3 had a "background ships" tag field, in addition to ships and characters. Has the potential to save a lot of headaches, but also probably a pain to add at this point.
That's all I've got for the moment; as I said above, I may add more later!
Welp!
Oct. 12th, 2026 09:17 pmsoc_puppetFinally heard back on the job I applied to! I didn't get it, but honestly, the thing is...
At this point, I'd already been working on the assumption that I didn't get it for like. A week.
Seriously, the interviewer said they'd get back to me by the end of the next week at the latest, but didn't respond to the nice, polite, "Hey, I know hiring takes a long time and stuff happens on top of that, do you perchance have an updated timeline for me?" email I sent the Monday after the end-of-week "deadline".
The response I finally got was via email to an account I wasn't using for the application.
I mean, it would technically be a lateral job move within an organization, so they would know they could reach me at said email? But I also deliberately didn't use my job email because I am looking for another job, and while I'd love to keep working within this organization, that's not guaranteed to happen; I figured it was best practice to be consistent with what email I use when applying for jobs instead, especially since, if I move on from this organization, I probably won't have access to said email account anymore. And since I sent my follow-up email from the non-work account, and the interview request was sent to my non-job account I don't think I can just assume that they lost my non-work email address. But that just makes it more baffling that they would use my work email address!
Ahem! All of that aside, from the results, I'm going to assume that my application was not rejected immediately after the interview, but rather that I was at least two or three names down the Preferred Candidates list from the top, and one or more of the people ahead of me got the job.
As for my next steps, IDK. I've looked at a few other job postings, but a non-zero number of the ones I've considered (including the one I was rejected for, actually) said they wanted someone with strong Microsoft Office skills, and that's... not something I have! So I might try looking for more job listings, but also looking for a class I can take on the Microsoft Office suite. I do better with guided learning than learn-on-your-own stuff, especially now that I have a better handle on my ADHD with regards to homework and such. Also, an actual class might offer some sort of certification of completion, which would be useful in my resume.
Alternately, I look into being a school bus driver again; I've had a clean driving record for the last fifteen-ish years, and again, my ADHD is under better control, so it might be worth a shot.
I mean, it would technically be a lateral job move within an organization, so they would know they could reach me at said email? But I also deliberately didn't use my job email because I am looking for another job, and while I'd love to keep working within this organization, that's not guaranteed to happen; I figured it was best practice to be consistent with what email I use when applying for jobs instead, especially since, if I move on from this organization, I probably won't have access to said email account anymore. And since I sent my follow-up email from the non-work account, and the interview request was sent to my non-job account I don't think I can just assume that they lost my non-work email address. But that just makes it more baffling that they would use my work email address!
Ahem! All of that aside, from the results, I'm going to assume that my application was not rejected immediately after the interview, but rather that I was at least two or three names down the Preferred Candidates list from the top, and one or more of the people ahead of me got the job.
As for my next steps, IDK. I've looked at a few other job postings, but a non-zero number of the ones I've considered (including the one I was rejected for, actually) said they wanted someone with strong Microsoft Office skills, and that's... not something I have! So I might try looking for more job listings, but also looking for a class I can take on the Microsoft Office suite. I do better with guided learning than learn-on-your-own stuff, especially now that I have a better handle on my ADHD with regards to homework and such. Also, an actual class might offer some sort of certification of completion, which would be useful in my resume.
Alternately, I look into being a school bus driver again; I've had a clean driving record for the last fifteen-ish years, and again, my ADHD is under better control, so it might be worth a shot.
