I have been the family golden child for YEARS. that having been said..... I gave up half my life taking care of this damn family, and quite frankly, that's enough. I finally am in the career field I chose at age ten, and I refuse to apologize for being happy and successful to my family. I had to wait until 35 to do what *I* wanted to do for myself......and I will NOT apologize for my current joy. Guilt trips don't work anymore either. :-)